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ACTIVITY: HOT DATE

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You ask a someone out and they says no

You tell them you never liked them anyway

You post rude messages to them on social media

You find yourself alone with them

You see them out at a party later in the week and they’re wearing a short skirt looking at someone else

You ask a someone out and they say yes

You grab them to get their attention and say…

You pull their hair

CORE COMPETENCY 1 AND/OR 2

Type: Group or Individual

Aim: To increase awareness of gender-based violence in relationships Objective: To identify behaviours of young men that contribute to relational violence Methodology:

You have been dating a someone for a few months and they’ve told you that they love you

You’re friends advised you to buy contraception but they’re not interested

You follow them out of the building and they shout at them asking why they’re messing you around

You try to kiss them and they try to pull away

This is an options-based exercises. Throughout the exercise the facilitator will provide the participant/s with a range of an outcomes as a result of an earlier decision made. There are a number of options available so the process can be repeated if it is being facilitated in a group setting. Step 1: the facilitator reads the first statement. For example, “you ask a girl out on a date and she says no”. The facilitator then asks what the participant might be thinking at that point and what they might be feeling as a result. Step 2: depending on the response, the facilitator will choose the next statement. For example, the statement may be “you then see the same girl out at night. She is wearing a mini-skirt and keeps glancing over at you”. Again, the participant is asked what they may be thinking and feeling. Again they are asked what action they may take as a result of those thoughts/feelings Step 3: the facilitator reads aloud the next statement. For example, it may be that “you see the girl walking home and go up to her and say….” The facilitator then asks the participant to finish the story. The process is repeated with step 4. Example statements – statements can be mixed up as appropriate. Create your own if needed, keeping in mind the age and abilities of your group/individual.

You tell them that it’s their fault there’s something wrong with you

Your date is asking what is wrong with you

You don’t respond to them They call you and you ignore them

Step 5: this step provides an opportunity for the participant/s to discuss what they observed. Initially they are asked about the different forms of violence that they heard. The facilitator explains that violence in relationships can take many forms and can be: Physical (pushing, shoving, hitting, smacking, holding, restraining) Sexual (videoing, touching, kissing, penetrating) Psychological or emotional (verbal, calling names, blaming, blackmailing) If there is time, the facilitator has the option to get participants to label each type of violence using examples

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